| | A friend of mine was looking to buy a place and she asked me for advice -- or more like a sounding board =). So we met up for lunch and she talked through her thoughts and concerns about a place she got inspected. Lots of concerns came back from the inspection -- and she spent most of the time talking about the concerns.
By the end, I told her that from the sounds of things she was already leanings towards no. She had told me little about what she liked about the place.
She planned to go talk with the neighbors in the complex to get a better sense of whether her concerns are valid. And hoped that when she talked to them, she would get a definite yes or no answer.
To which I replied -- "it's easy to get a definite no. When you talk with them, they'll tell you horror stories and the problems are still there... and you'll know to walk away. But say they don't share your concerns... does that necessarily alleviate yours? It might mitigate it a bit, but your concerns will remain and you won't find the definite yes. What could they possibly say that would make you think all the past problems with the complex wouldn't come back?"
It seems to apply to other things in life too. School, if classes go badly -- it's a sign you should probably drop it. Or if you are in a major you just don't get. =) With a job interview -- the interviewer may try and sell you on the job, but you should know their sales pitch may not match the actual position. But certainly, there are things the interviewer could say that could be red flags -- like "pager duty" =P. What about with God? It's easy to find reasons why you shouldn't be part of a ministry (kids always kick me, i can't sing, i ramble) ... but how often is it easy and clear that you should do something? perhaps when all your reasons...or excuses are eliminated? what if your concerns are never fully alleviated? when do you take the plunge?
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| | Posted 6/18/2008 10:02 PM - 86 Views - 4 eProps - 2 comments
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